Resilience by Example

When I was director of preschool programs, I saw that gifted children, who were used to "getting it" the first time, would quit doing activities that they didn’t immediately “get”. I asked parents to attempt a new physical skill that takes some time to "get" and let the child see the parent struggle at it. CookieFail Talk about how hard it is and how it's worth it to try again. Let them know that everyone struggles sometimes. When you get it, invite the child to help you celebrate, even if that celebration is just doing a "happy dance" or singing a "happy song". When you are their example, it makes it "more" okay for them when they struggle. Of course, this advice works for children at any level. There’s just too much pressure to succeed. Children need to learn that everyone struggles and often fails before succeeding.

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